How we decided NOT to have a backyard wedding

After much letdowns with animal heads mounted on the walls of prospective venues, we were  I was, beginning to go through some rough times. We tried a couple of venue searches on weddingwire, weddingbee, theknot among others. I proceeded to whine… a lot:

“We’re never going to find anything we like!”

“But I don’t want a golf course or a banquet hall!”

“Our backyard isn’t finished yet!”

We thought very seriously about having the reception in the backyard of our new house. The backyard is a disgrace. We don’t have anything back there. Oh wait, we have some sticks, some logs, some pieces of an old stove, an eyesore of a shed, and LOTS of rocks and pricker bushes. Oh, and some dead trees… can’t forget those. The backyard was not really our main concern. Having a clean house that is liveable was. So when the prospect of 120 people in our “backyard” was talked about, we both panicked a smidgen. I began frantically researching tent companies, heaters (since it’s October) and even portable restrooms! The cost was up to about $2,500 before we even added in food, linens and decor. We didn’t even have a caterer at that point. We both gave up and put some hard thought in to this.

Could we really get the backyard ready for a WEDDING in five months? It isn’t even ready for a birthday party! Not even for a BBQ in its current state…. It’s been neglected for the past ten years (we’ve only owned it for one).

We decided that no, we could not do this. We wanted to, but we just couldn’t pull it off AND get the inside ready to be lived in. Some of the rooms didn’t even have floors! Defeated, we bit the bullet and began researching venues once again. Ian had known about the Warwick Center for quite some time and after being told by another winery, “I’m sorry our packages start at $8,000 without food, tax or tip, we just can’t help you”, we decided to look into it.

We made a date to look at the Warwick Center right before Christmas. We were not wowed by it’s interior, but #1, we could afford it, #2, it was practically across the street from the winery AND had the same view off the huge patio! (Take that winery!) We called them back the day after our tour, asked if our date was available. The lady in charge, said yes! :)  Shortly after we booked the church for the same date. I know it’s supposed to be church, first, but we were overly excited. It came with tables and chairs (luckily) but everything else, we bring in. Cups, Plates, decor, napkins, table linens, food, bar and all that. We got to hand-pick our vendors though, so it worked out perfectly (or it seems like it will)… we’ll find out in 72 days…


2 thoughts on “How we decided NOT to have a backyard wedding

  1. Dara, everything happens for a reason! You just had to have that place at the end. In a sense you didn’t find it, it found you. I wish you luck ( and patience) with the rest of the stuff, I’m sure it will come out gorgeous.

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